A big surprise about kindness
When men talk about women, and women talk about men, you’ll often hear them wondering what members of the opposite sex really, really want more than anything else. Now, research conducted at the University of Göttingen in Germany provides an answer.
Sixty-four thousand women in 180 countries (wow, that’s quite a sample!) were asked what they truly wanted from their significant others. The response that topped the list was something remarkably simple. The women wanted kindness. It’s the number one quality women want in a long-term partner.
In the study, women were asked about various traits of an ideal partner, for example, religious beliefs, political orientation, or the importance of height. Almost 90% of the participants ranked kindness as the number one desirable quality, which was then followed by supportiveness. intelligence, education, and confidence. And attractiveness? It didn’t even score among the top five qualities. Body type? The preference that emerged was simply “average,” as opposed to, say, “muscular.” Apparently, the two most important physical features for a man to have are an attractive smile, followed by attractive eyes.
The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention.
Conversely, you might wonder how men would respond to the same question. In a similar but smaller study, men were asked what they were looking for in a significant other. Here, the top five answers were kindness (again!), supportiveness, intelligence, education, and ambition. Seems men are looking for partners who are kind, smart, and show initiative.
Do these findings tally for you?